Monthly Spotlight: Freddy

An idea came to me when I was working for this last Spanish radio station to have a highlight feature segment each month. The segment would feature a person who has overcome numerous obstacles, but with motivation and perseverance has come out on top. This was also a thought to give credit and notoriety to someone who otherwise would never have been heard of. 

So I've decided to use this platform to go on with my idea and thank those whom I have crossed paths with in my lifetime to show them they are appreciated and their hard work is noticed. 

For my first Monthly Spotlight I want to give major props to my friend and colleague, Freddy Aguilar. 

I first met Freddy in September of 2011 when I returned to work for iHeart Media, back when it was still Clear Channel Communications. Freddy and I were both promotions assistants and both started off as interns prior to that. The funny thing to this story is that Freddy and I couldn't stand each other at first. He had a problem with my not-so-perfect Spanish speaking skills and I didn't like his ignorance to the fact that I am third generation, but was trying my best. 

It took us nearly three months and getting into a heated discussion before we became cordial, and eventually great friends. Telling everyone our story is always a pleasure for me to have that example and personal experience of how we overcame our differences in the workplace. 

Freddy is a husband to his beautiful wife, father to four gorgeous girls, coach to a softball team, manager to a new music band, promotions employee to the newest Spanish station in Chicago, and my great friend. How he manages all of this each and everyday is beyond me, but he takes pride in each responsibility he carries in his life. 

Having worked with Freddy on and off over the last five years has allowed me to get to know him better and see what an amazing person he is both at work and as a friend. I imagine I may have told him at least ten times a week that I don't know how he does it. He is such a positive person that at times it annoys me that he can be so easy going in every situation, even the hardest of predicaments. 

During the last almost two months at my most recent job I was going through the toughest of situations. The person who originally hired me and knew my potential was let go and it left me somewhat uneasy of my future with the company. It was a tough month to endure with some of the staff unconvinced that I was the right person for the job. Even having to deal with public humiliation and disrespect from a person in a management role. Each day was becoming harder to deal with coming into the office because I had no idea what to expect. Was someone going to disrespect me today, undermine me, question my abilities? I just wasn't sure and frankly getting to my breaking point quicker as each day passed. 

Unfortunately for me, Freddy's hours had been cut drastically due to that same person's personal agenda and I had less time to see him while at work. It angered me that they were being incredibly unfair and for all the wrong reasons. However, to my surprise Freddy kept his calm, continues to be patient to this day and extremely positive. Freddy would tell me, "it's okay don't take it so serious and just keep doing the good job that you're doing." Not only would he give me his own words of encouragement, but he would share prayers that have helped him, and he knows how important my faith is to me. 

All of this was necessary for me to hear each day, but unfortunately it got so bad for me personally that I left the company. Freddy, however, stayed and continues to be a positive force to be reckoned with. I have so much admiration for the person he is both professionally and personally. I just want him to know that his efforts do not go unnoticed and that I pray he continues to be successful in his desired career path. 

I'm sure many know him as El Compa Freddy from El Patron (now BIG 95.5FM), but to me he's Freddy, my humble and caring friend who I know will be my friend for a lifetime. Thank you for all that you have done, continue to do, and for the positive force you have been in every one's life that you have touched. 

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"Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, When it is in your power to do it." - Proverbs 3:27

Cancelled Wedding

October 1, 2016

That was the date my fiance and I had set for our wedding day which we chose last November and gave us almost one whole year to plan it out.

Venue, flowers, photographer, limo, centerpieces, videographer, favors, and so on. It was what seemed to be a never ending list of things we still needed to plan and here we were, five months until our "wedding day" and more than half of the things on the wedding checklist were still unchecked.

Those who know me well are well aware that I am not big on details or fancy parties for myself. I began to feel incredibly overwhelmed when constantly asked how the wedding planning was going. It wasn't any one's fault of course because it's a typical question to ask someone with a wedding only five months away, but I couldn't help but think, what is going on with the wedding planning?

All of the checklists, the family drama regarding "no kids" at the reception, the ridiculous prices for certain extras was just all too much for me to handle. This is no way knocking those who do have a big lavish wedding, kudos to you for having the money and patience, but it's like a part time job. 

When did weddings become bigger than the actual marriage? Since when did it become necessary to pay so much for a one day event? With each day that came and went I couldn't stop asking myself, why do we need to spend all this money? I get mad when he buys me flowers or anything that isn't something we both can't enjoy, so why this? 

Getting married is supposed to be the happiest time in your life, before having children of course, but at what cost? You have a big wedding, beautiful venue, amazing flowers, gorgeous center pieces, flawless dress, etc. then comes the day after and you realize you just spent $10,000 plus in one day. All of that money, gone forever. 

Will you have the memories, of course, but all I could personally think of was how that money can be used toward our first house. Toward traveling the world. Toward experiences with the person that this entire wedding is about. 

So here we were, now four months before the wedding, and I told my fiance how I was feeling about it all and to my relief he said he felt the same. THANK GOD, I thought to myself. We both realized that throwing a big party to what it had escalated to wasn't even what we wanted, we had added on certain things to please the families and not ourselves. It turned into, well so and so should be invited because of this, and so on. At the end of the day we realized that our marriage is about him and I, not a wedding, not a party, not for anyone else. 

Cancelling the wedding was the greatest decision we could have made for us as a couple. We still plan to get married of course, but our own way. We decided to have a weekend getaway in Vegas and get married with our bridal party there to witness and join in on the fun times to be had in Vegas. For our family, especially the parents, we plan to celebrate our Church wedding with a dinner after with our immediate family. 

Not only will this save us an insane amount of money, but the money we did have saved toward the wedding will be used toward a house in the near future, God willing. All I know is, God placed the man of my dreams in my life and the only thing that matters is that we're both happy, we're both committed to each other, and we don't need to spend all of that money to seal the deal. 

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Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. Make sure that your character is free from the love of money, being content with what you have; for He Himself said, "I will never desert you, nor will I ever forsake you," so that we confidently say, "The Lord is my helper, I will not be afraid. What will man do to me?" - Hebrews 13: 4-6

Communication in Relationships

So you're having a disagreement/argument with your significant other and it's bothering you so much that instead of trying to work through it by communicating with your partner you walk away from the situation to cool off and instead call or text your sister, mom, or best friend to vent. 

I'm sure many of us have been in this situation more times than we'd like to admit, but in reading into this we're all making one of the biggest mistakes we can in our relationships that can be quite detrimental...communication, but with your partner. 

I am guilty of doing this many times and recently as much as I hate to admit it. As hard as it is to stop, it's something we must all promise ourselves to stray away from doing. There are quite a few things this can damage in the relationship. 

• Your partner may feel insecure because they may assume you do not feel comfortable communicating with them.

• Your partner may not know why you are upset because you aren't being clear with them, which in turn means they can't try to fix it.

• The person you confide in may view your partner differently because they are now involved in your relationship problems. 

• Your issues don't get resolved with your partner because you always choose to walk away which may cause them to start doing the same. 

• The lack of communication can lead to further issues than what originally caused it. 

Communication, as we all know, is key for anything from having a great work environment, family relationships, and friendships. 

Personally, my best method of communication in most situations has always been written communication. I find I can express myself best when I write a letter, email, or even a long text message. This is easiest for me because I find it incredibly hard to express any type of emotion when it comes to a personal situation in person. 

I truly do not do well with emotional confrontations and I am sure it's due to the situations where I had to be strong for my younger sister growing up with many issues our parents faced in an effort to comfort her. Not to say I do not encourage my family or friends to confide in me, but I have a tendency to not have the best reaction or comfort method to those who are sharing emotions of sadness. 

Even in my relationship now, it takes a lot for me to get so upset that I shed tears. Many times I do find it easier to shut down, walk away, and cry to myself because in my mind I assume my partner won't understand me or my point of view. Also, when my partner does try to communicate with me what his issues are I tend to justify my actions in response to his feelings. 

As I mentioned before, it's a hard thing to refrain from doing, but it's something we must all work on in an effort to better our relationships with our partner. If there was one thing I could take back is involving even those closest to me in my family with issues that have gone on in my relationship with my partner. If I choose to work through any issue, big or small, with my significant other it's because we believe our relationship is worth fighting for and we both know deep in our hearts that we have a future together. 

The other negative impact this can have is that the person you confide in may give you advice that can be more hurtful than helpful. I've seen it happen that those closest to you may not understand the nature of your relationship and are quick to tell you to leave the person or may advise you to do something that can further harm your relationship. I truly encourage you to avoid this possibility because there is nothing more painful than knowing someone who you assumed would want the best for you and to be happy would advise such things that would result in the opposite. 

From now on my partner and I have made a promise to each other to not let the opinions of others, even those closest to us, to have an impact on our relationship in order for us to be happy. At the end of the day it's just him and I in the relationship and no one, not even our parents, siblings, or closest friends will know what's best for us. I encourage you to do the same with your partner, especially if your relationship is something you know is worth working on and can do so together. 

Start attending mass together, read the Bible together, make sure to go to bed early to have a conversation about your day, have dinner together, set aside date nights, take interest in your partners interest, and most importantly always tell each other how much you love them. 

At the end of the day you, and only you, know what and who will make you happy. Trust your heart, mind, gut, and most importantly trust that God will lead you to the right answer. 

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My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. - James 1:19

Fear of Failure

How many times have you felt fearful of something that you just couldn't quite shake the feeling? How many times have you been told that those fears are fears you shouldn't have?

Each stage in my life has brought upon new fears. 

When I was younger my fears were that I would fail at school, that my parents would eventually divorce, that I would fail my little sister by being a terrible big sister.

As an adolescent they were fears of losing my first love, losing my job, not getting into college, failing at college, losing my family in the midst of my parents divorce that against all of my fears as a child, did in fact happen. 

Now as an adult my fears grow greater because I no longer have the excuse of being a child who doesn't know better. 

As an adult daughter I fear that I won't continue to make my parents proud by always pushing myself to achieve more. 

As the oldest sister of now a 21 year old, 9 year old, and 3 year old I fear that I won't be the best role model for them. I fear I won't be the older sibling they look up to or seek for advice as they get older themselves. 

As an employee I fear I won't live up to my potential in the workplace and that I will be replaced by the next college graduate who is knowledgeable in areas I may not be. I fear being unsuccessful as the years go on and not progressing with time. I fear financial instability and not being able to do it on my own.

As a fiance to my future husband I fear that I will not be enough for him and that he will seek what he needs in a partner from someone else. I fear being lied to, cheated on, abandoned, or not being put first in my partners life. I fear that with time and the more downs come with the ups that I will not be the same person he fell in love with. 

As a woman I fear that my punishment in life for aborting my unborn child 6 years ago is that I will not be able to bear children with my future husband. I fear that I will not be able to give my future husband what he truly desires, a family of his own. When I am constantly asked when I'm going to hurry up and have children how do I explain to them this fear? 

Lastly, as a daughter of God I fear that I am going down a path He didn't intend for me. I fear that the path He created for me is something I deliberately choose each day to stray from. I fear that I am not being the greatest daughter to Him and the greatest sister to His children.

Each of these fears have been lingering in my mind as a child and continue to grow as the years pass. So many times I'm told by my parents, relatives, close friends, and even coworkers that I shouldn't let these things get in the way. However, how do you stop it? How does one stop being afraid? How is it that I can read the Bible, read how many times God tells us to not be afraid and yet it's no remedy to my problem?

I've learned that these fears are inevitable. My fears of being a bad sister, daughter, fiance, employee, etc. are my expectations getting the best of me. I can always strive to be the best at each one of these, but somewhere down the line mistakes happen and I have to learn to not let it define me or hinder me from getting back up and trying harder next time. 

These fears have a big part in the creation of the woman I am today. Do I wish people knew some of my fears so as not to make me feel insulted or judged? Heck yea, but what I need to remember is that I am not the only one with such fears. I too play a big part in potentially hurting someone by making a comment, asking a question, or discussing certain topics that may be hurtful to others and I don't even realize it. 

It's understandable for us as humans to have such fears that we cannot control, but one thing I will try my best to do is remind myself that God tells us numerous times not to be afraid. He tells us that he will carry our burdens. Each day I wake up I thank God for another day here and I have to remind myself it's a new day. My worries from yesterday should not carry on and my fears are only my own insecurities. I pray that as time goes on it gets easier to rid myself of these burdens and for everyone else as well. I also pray to be more understanding because as an old manager once told me, "you never know what a person is going through in their personal lives so always greet them with a smile, you never know if you may make their day for them." 

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"Don't be afraid, for I am with you. Don't be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand." - Isaiah 41:10

Sisterhood

During a recent conversation ,during our hundreds, with my cousins I began to think about how fortunate I am to have such close bonds with many individuals in my family, specifically a sisterhood bond.

Urban dictionary defines Sisterhood as a bond between two or more girls, not always related by blood. They always tell the truth, honor each other, and love each other like sisters.  

I am more than blessed to have two sisterhood bonds.

The first is with my mom and my sister.

My mom has always been like my best friend since I was a little girl. I'm sure it had to do with the fact that she's a very young mom and was able to relate to me on a deeper level than older moms with their little ones. Even though we went through some very rough patches throughout the years we always pick back up after we've cooled down. Now that I am older and about to get married, I definitely seek my mom for wisdom, guidance, and a listening ear.

The relationship I've had with my sister has taken many forms over the course of the years. It started as a nurturing type in that I treated her as if she were my baby when she was born. I always had her in mind, took care of her, wanted to feed her, change her diapers, etc. Once she got a little older it was more of a playing partner. I then had someone to do things with such as play Super Nintendo, watch Power Rangers, roller blade, bike ride, and all of the fun things we do as kids. Even as I began my first serious relationship she went everywhere with me, not only because it was something my parents required in order for me to go out, but I truly enjoyed having her there. Even as I got older and my parents didn't make me take her with me to my boyfriend's (at the time) house I would still invite her over because I knew it was a nice escape for her too. It's crazy to think that now we are both adults and our relationship is stronger than it has ever been. She is such a mature woman that even being the older sister I still turn to her for advice.

The second sisterhood I'm blessed to be in is with my cousins.



 

Coming from a huge family on both sides, I have more cousins than the average family. However, being Mexican-American we do not do the first/second/third cousins. So those I consider my cousins are technically "second cousins," but again, we don't see it that way. The sisterhood I have is with the cousins on my mom's side. There is 7 of us ranging in age from our mid-twenties to early-thirties, and I'm the baby of the group (as always).

I can't say I have been close to them my entire life because I am younger and naturally when you're in your teens the last thing you want is your "annoying little cousin" to be in your business. It wasn't until 3 years ago when I started dating my now-fiancé that I was included in the group. At this point I was already 23, living on my own, and in a serious relationship so I'm sure it made it easier for my cousins to relate to me, who were mom's and some were married .

When I read the definition from Urban Dictionary it struck me that we hit all 3 key points, we tell each other the truth, we honor each other, and love each other like sisters.

Telling the truth, boy do we do that. What I truly love is that we can be brutally honest with each other and not take things personal. We tell each other what we know we can't say out loud to others, but need to let out and who better to vent to than your sisters. We confide in each other to let out our demons because we know we'll receive not only constructive criticism, but tough love as well. We honor each other each day and it's something I know we don't ever have to question. Lastly, we love each other like sisters because we know blood is thicker than water and family is always number 1.

One of the most important aspects of my sisterhood with my cousins is that we are all very much into our faith. We know that even though we may not all be the same denomination, God is always first in our lives and He is what brings us all together. I know for me it allows me to be open with my faith, how much I love Him, and how to grow closer to Him. There is nothing greater than having a group of strong, intelligent, strong-willed, independent, beautiful, kind hearted and Godly women who you can confide in, talk about God with, and know will always be there for you.

If you are fortunate enough to have a close bond with select special ladies in your life, work hard to keep it the bond strong. No one but women understand the intense creatures of emotions we are and we need to stick together to assure we are not alone. If you have a sister, cousin, aunt, or another close relative that you haven't spoken to in a while, I encourage you to reach out to them. You can't please everyone, but if you have a group of close relatives or friends who you know is willing to fight alongside you, those are the people you want in every season of your life.

I know who mine are, do you? 

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Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up. Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? - Ecclesiastes 4:9-11

 

 

Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,”

And call understanding your intimate friend; - Proverbs 7:4

Personality Core Types, What's Yours?

I have had quite a few jobs in my career which means I've completed about 10-15 job applications and interviews. I can honestly say that my current company has the most extensive interviewing and hiring process I have ever encountered.

Application process:

• Two hour questionnaire with over 150 questions that range in subjects.

Interviewing process:

• Interview with the company recruiter who then asks more questions to try and get a feel of the type of person you are.
• A spelling test, yes you read that right, a spelling test of 50 words that you had to pass with a score of 100%. The recruiter than decides at the end of the interview whether she will send you to the second interview with the hiring manager at the company.

Second interview process:

• Take a set of five evaluations with even more questions, this time questions on personal opinions regarding the workplace and personal behaviors.
• Interview with the hiring manager and operations manager at the company.

Not even 15 minutes after I left the second interview I received a phone call with the job offer. I have to admit I was quite relieved since I had spent so much time trying to get this job.

Upon starting at my new job I was told I'd be seeing the company psychiatrist for the first six months so that she could put me in the correct department based on my "core type." Being that this is the first time I've ever experienced this at a job, my first question was, what the heck is a core type.

During my first meeting with the psychiatrist she went over the results of all of the exams I had to take before getting this job and what the purpose was. Apparently the purpose of the test was to place me in my two strongest categories of the four this company looks for. The four core types are organizer, commander, relator, and entertainer.

She went over my results as follows in order of high percentage to lowest:

1. Commander
2. Organizer
3. Relator
4. Entertainer (I had about 3% in me)

Upon looking over what each one meant, it was not only intriguing, but resonated with me and my experiences in the past.

Commander - True leader of the world. They are decisive, goal-directed, confident, and capable. They are driven to succeed, and don't mind taking other to the top with them. They know what it takes to achieve an outcome and they understand that there is power in cooperation. They are excellent delegators who never ask more of their people than they are willing to do themselves. They are honorable, helpful, considerate of others and highly motivated to seek out and get positive results that will allow everyone to win. They want to control their own destinies, but have no desire to control others. They believe that the best way to achieve their own goals is to help others to achieve their goals as well. They are independent, adventurous and love a challenge. They are conscientious, efficient, and capable, and can do just about anything they set their mind to. They seek to inspire and motivate, rather than to control.

Organizer - Reserved and careful, but not overly cautious or suspicious. They are keenly observant, noticing details that others usually miss. They enjoy attending to details and tend to be task focused rather than people focused, but are very loyal to those they consider close. They are perceptive, sensitive and alert to subtle changes in environment or mood, so they catch things before they get out of hand. They are serious and industrious at work, and serious and dependable at home. They can be counted on to do what they say they will do and to carry out projects to the very end. Though they don't usually show their feelings easily, they have a great depth of feeling. While they are strict on themselves, wanting to control their environment, insofar as is possible, they prefer to teach by example and reason rather than to control others.

Relator - Gentle, caring, considerate and compassionate. They genuinely care about people and work at making relationships effective. They see and anticipate the needs of other sand are ever willing to lend a helping hand or a sympathetic ear when needed. They express their own wants and needs, but will seldom make demands on others. They recognize that indecisiveness can be detrimental to them and to building healthy relationships and so, have generally learned decision making skills. They are great team players. They are ever willing to adjust themselves in the interest of harmony, but will not allow themselves to be abused. Happy, healthy relationships are central to their own happiness. They have no need and no desire to control others. Their aim and goal is one of mutually supportive and beneficial relationships.

Entertainer - Interesting, colorful, talkative, energetic and enthusiastic. They enjoy variety and the energy they get from new experiences. They have rich imaginations and can turn the most mundane of events into something interesting with their flair for entertaining and story-telling in dramatic and colorful ways. They are open and honest about their feelings and express themselves easily and comfortably. They are affectionate, demonstrative and completely delightful to be around. Their passion and genuine enjoyment of life is contagious. They see interactions as the spice of life. They truly enjoy being with people and don't mind being center stage, though they don't always need to be the center of attention. They have learned that they can be more effective by sharing the limelight. They have a knack for motivating others. They have no need to control others, preferring to inspire them...and at that, they are masters.

I'm sure those who know me on a deeper level can laugh at my low score in the entertainer section because I can be incredibly anti-social, unless it's with family. What surprised me was my low score as a relator. I honestly believe I am equally an organizer as a relator. Throughout my entire career I have always strived to have positive relationship with my coworkers to create a much more pleasant environment. However, as I had more sessions with the company psychiatrist it was discovered that throughout the years I've become very cold. Now this I couldn't deny. Gone were the days of my innocence in Corporate America due to the blindfold being taken off and having to deal with the cut-throat truths that engulfs it.

My relator began to diminish when I started to see how much less people wanted a pleasant work environment and how much more it was a survival of the fittest, and in the case of Corporate America, survival of the most conniving. It's an ugly truth to discover in many places of business, but I know it's not present in every single business. There are the select few who have managed to keep the peace and make it a great place to work.

I'm sure you are curious as to what you are categorized as, so I encourage you to take a test that will give you similar results as this is from a private company solely for my place of work. Here is the link for a free personality test that places you in 1 of 16 different personality types, but they all tie in to the 4 core types I have mentioned here.

Old School Punishments

As there has been so much darkness in my life these past months, it's nice to have some light shed here and there.

For me, that light was my mom visiting for a day this last weekend. Although I was only able to spend a mere 10 hours with her, I made sure to soak up every minute of her visit.

While here she wanted to stop by my aunt's house to make sure she greeted her before she left. As we were conversing in the kitchen we started reminiscing on my childhood. I was reminded of all of the times my mom disciplined me as a child, and rightfully so.

Boy oh boy do I have countless stories of amazing (at that time terrible) punishments that make me realize my mom was a genius. Maybe in reading these you'd like to steal one or two for yourself in your own disciplinary actions with your children. All I know is, it most definitely worked. Even after getting spanked with the belt, had my ear pulled, or arm pinched it was definitely worth it in the end. This is in my opinion of course, everyone has their own thought on physical discipline and are entitled to it.

Dentist Mayhem
I was almost turning 6 when it was my time to go to the dentist for my first school check-up before starting 1st grade. I've always been a big chicken with everything, so naturally I was afraid of the dentist. According to my mom I would not stop crying nor would I allow the dentist to look at my teeth. It was so bad that the dentist told my mom that it may be better for them to reschedule since I wasn't making it easy for him. My mom being the person she was did not accept that so asked that we be excused to visit the restroom. I didn't have to pee of course, but man did I get a good butt warming. She told me that if I continued to cry or complain I'd be taking another trip to the bathroom with her. So what did I do? I got right back into the chair and stayed quiet the entire time.

Dreaded Shopping
Most kids at any age up until their teen years loathes shopping with their mom at the store. Unless it's something for us, we don't really want to spend hours upon end in the women's department. Being that typical child, my sister and I questioned my mom every 15 minutes or so if she was almost done. We must have grown tired of just walking around next to her like a shadow that we started playing in the clothes racks. This is course was not okay with my mom who then dragged us both out of the racks by our ears and said those dreaded six words...just wait until we get home. For another hour or so my sister and I followed close behind my mom as we just glanced at each other every minute or so dreading the ride home and what was waiting for us at home. That must have been the only time we prayed for our mom to continue shopping some more in hopes she'd forget our behavior. To our disappointment, that never happened and each time we'd get exactly what was waiting for us when we got home, a nice shiny belt to the butt.

Beans for Days
This has to be one of my mom's most infamous story on discipline with my sister and I. To this day it's something I never forget and makes me sick to my stomach, literally. It all started after school one day when my mom said we had to stop by the grocery store before getting home so she could get ingredients to make dinner. Well, it just so happens my sister and I thought we could persuade her to get us McDonald's instead.

Sis and I: Ma, can we get McDonald's just for today? We're hungry now.
Mom: No, I have to buy groceries so I can make dinner that will last us the entire week.
Sis and I: Please Ma, just today.
Mom: I said no, I don't have enough money to get both so I have to buy groceries so they can last us until next week.
Sis and I: Can't you just use your credit card?!

I don't think we even needed an answer at that point as we could tell how upset that comment made my mom.

Mom: You girls are so spoiled, you know that there are kids in Mexico who are starving and don't even have food to eat every single day like you girls do!

Not only was it an awkward trip to the grocery store, but it wasn't until we got home that we heard what our punishment was for saying such a thing.

Mom: Because you girls don't understand how great you girls have it, I'm going to make this entire pot (the big pot us Mexicans know as, the pozole pot) of frijoles de la olla (beans in the pot) and you girls will eat it for breakfast, lunch, and dinner until it's all gone!

Frijoles de la olla

For the next 7 days my sister and I ate nothing but frijoles de olla for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. We did this all while she cooked my dad enchiladas (his favorite) and steak. So there we were, having a family dinner as my sister and I had to watch them eat the good stuff as we suffered and ate beans. Ever since then, I have never been able to eat those type of beans again. Just thinking about it makes me want to puke. Some relatives who have heard the story tell my mom she went too far, but me having been the one who suffered through it, I'm glad she did. It was a great lesson to learn that when there isn't enough for a want, you have to go with what is needed.

These were just some of various punishments I endured growing up, but I am grateful to have received them all. Had it not been for the firm discipline my parents enforced I would not be the person I am today. They taught me the essentials in life to be a strong, independent, confident, and responsible person. So to my parents I say, thank you for punishing me. Thank you for having such high expectations from me and thank you most of all for loving me enough to teach me these important lessons.