Over This Election...

Trump is a racist businessman with no qualifications to run for POTUS. 

Hillary is a lying politician who should not be allowed to run for POTUS. 

These two lines have been said in so many words regarding the two candidates for POTUS throughout this entire election and it's all we can seem to focus on. Elections have always been known to take jabs at the other candidate toward the end of the election, but it seems this entire election has been just that. 

I'm so sick and tired of seeing countless posts on social media of people belittling or sharing memes made to make the candidate that they are strongly against. I understand the frustration, I really do, but do we really believe that sharing a meme of Donald Trump morphed into the body of a pig, or Hilary Clinton half naked in a bathing suit is serving any purpose? Does that really help the young individual who is finally of age to vote and is stuck between the two make their decision and basing them off of your posts? 

So many grown men and women acting like children by posting such things is just sad in my opinion. It makes me wonder what happened in the last few years, where did we go wrong, when everyone started to point fingers and make it so public?

Most Americans today will admit this election is one of the scariest, if not the scariest, and their decision has probably not been made. My honest opinion, I haven't felt 100% on either as well and it's the toughest decision to make. 

My suggestion to everyone would be to post less negativity and start sharing positive messages regarding your candidate of choice. 

Yes, we know the downfalls each candidate has. 

Yes, we've heard how many times Trump has made indecent remarks toward a group of people. 

Yes, we've heard how many times Hilary has lied while under oath.

You know what I have not heard yet from most people? Why they are choosing their candidate. 

So here is a question I would love to pose to everyone who loves to share negative things about the opposite candidate, what do you LIKE about your candidate of choice? When answering that question, feel free to create a post with a list of reasons why your candidate is your choice. This way when those who are still stuck in the middle can read what each candidate brings to the table that they might not have already known. 

Remember that no matter who you are, you have an influence on someone, at least one person out there who looks to you and you may not even know it. Again, I understand the frustration, but the mainstream media has already taken the job of posting the negatives about each candidate, let's work together as a whole to start building each other up, not tearing each other down.

Am I upset about what each has against them? Yes of course, but I'm also upset that as a country we're not taking this more serious and are allowing this to tear us apart even further. We're better than this. 

The Joys of Being a Godmother

"So we were talking about baptizing the baby and we want you to be the Godmother." 

I'll never forget the day my uncle asked me to be the Godmother to my beautiful Godson. I was not only surprised, but so humbled and proud to even be considered. He went on to say that he wanted his son to have a strong and motivated Godmother to look up to, but he already had me at we want you...

Since I had been asked prior to him being born I couldn't wait until his arrival. The day he was brought back home with his mom I was itching to get off work and see him. Here I am, below, still dressed in my work clothes holding him.

Since the day he was born I had such a strong attachment to him that I can't quite explain. It was as close to the feeling of being a mom as I can honestly say I have felt. 

For the next 4 years I made sure I was there to see him growing. I would ask my uncle to let me take him home for a day or even a weekend. To this day I'm truly surprised they trusted me taking care of him overnight being that I wasn't a mother and was only  20, but I'm glad they did. 

I say 4 years because once I moved to Texas it was incredibly hard to spend the quality time I was used to spending with him being so far. His 5th birthday was the first birthday I wasn't there to celebrate with him, but I did send him a present and made sure to FaceTime my sister as he opened it. 

During our times together I would take him to the park, which interestingly enough I was able to be the first person to take him to a park and go down his first slide. We'd go to Chuck E. Cheese, walking around the town, get ice cream, or just watch movies at home. I always joke around and say that my Godson has put me through almost everything that a mother would go through with her child. 

He has been sick with me overnight. I had to get up at 4 am as he was projectile vomiting on me, bathe him and rock him to sleep as he cried. He has had explosive diarrhea to the point where he pooped all over my bed, pillows, his clothes, and my arm which then caused me to have to bathe him and of course throw out all of my sheets and pillow cases. During my friends baby shower that I took him with he decided to attempt to throw a tantrum by wanting to throw himself on the floor because he didn't want to leave. I had to give him a nice butt warming for that one, which I can honestly say was the best decision I made during that episode because to this day he has never tried it again with me.  

Now that I am back home and he is now 6 years old I make an attempt to see him more often so that I can be there for him whenever he needs someone aside from his parents. I want him to feel comfortable to come to me as he gets older with any issues that may arise. I pray that I'm able to teach him how amazing God is and instill our Catholic values in his everyday life. 

My Godson, my little corazon de melon, 6 years old now and so full of life. He's so energetic, so happy, loving, and considerate. I'll never forget the time we were walking back home from getting a cookie at a local bakery and just before we were about to cross the train tracks he extends his little arm out to block me from continuing to walk and says, "wait Titi (Tia in Puerto Rican Spanish), let me make sure there are no trains coming so you can go." My heart just melted right there and had to bring him close to squeeze him from how much love I felt at that moment. 

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To know wisdom and instruction,

To discern the sayings of understanding,

3 

To receive instruction in wise behavior,

Righteousness, justice and equity;

4 

To give prudence to the naive,

To the youth knowledge and discretion,

5 

A wise man will hear and increase in learning,

And a man of understanding will acquire wise counsel,

6 

To understand a proverb and a figure,

The words of the wise and their riddles. - Proverbs 2-6

From Ms. to Mrs.

"So how is married life treating you?"

"I don't know, nothing is different. I'm happy, he's happy, we're both incredibly blessed."

In two more days it'll be one month since my husband and I legally married and I have to say, not much is different. I've been asked how married life is too many times to count on one hand and each time I don't know exactly what it is the person expects to hear from me.

My husband and I have lived together for the last 3 years and I believe that had a lot to do with my feeling no different since our our status went from domestic partnership to married. The one question that I'm sure many might want to ask but fear it may be offensive is if I'm pregnant. It's an understandable assumption for anyone to have considering we originally planned a traditional ceremony and reception and had last minute change of plans.

Nope, still not pregnant and still no desire to become a mother yet. Maybe after our church wedding the desire will kick in. For now, I just plan to enjoy my husband as much as I can and be selfish because I know for a fact that once we have children he is going to be the most amazing dad and give all of his attention and affection to the kids. Which, don't get me wrong is a great thing and I'd be blessed to have, but stinks for me as I'm used to receiving it all. Selfish, I know, but I don't think it's wrong to want to be someone's everything after getting married.

I will say this, the biggest change I have noticed is from my in-laws. It's as if once we were married they returned to the way they were with me when I first started dating my husband. I don't really know how to explain it, but I feel welcomed again. I'm sure it has everything to do with the fact that I am now officially their daughter/sister-in-law, but it has felt amazing.

The gut wrenching feeling of not knowing what might be said, how am I going to upset someone now has completely vanished and I'm beyond grateful. I look at my new family and instantly filled with gratitude.

I pray that for as long as I'm alive I'm happily married to my husband and continue to build a strong relationship with my new family.